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Forgiveness and Health

December 31st, 2009 healtharticles No comments


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While Eastern medicine has been the strong relationship between health and forgiveness understood, it is not generally accepted in modern Western culture. We in the West want a pill to the evil path, and our medical industry makes $ billions trying to meet this demand. But, if we talk about anxiety, depression, grief, stress, abuse recovery, drug abuse, eating disorders, even many physical illnesses including heart disease … pills are often only useful tomask the symptoms. In many cases, non-forgiveness more than any past event is the direct cause or a major factor in the disease or condition. Indeed, forgiveness is often needed for recovery is possible.

Forgiveness is Recovery: It is because our anger psychologically binds to the offensive person and event, forcing us to be mentally ill to play again and again, deepening and widening of the emotional scars until there is no escape from the sense ofpowerlessness, victimization and abuse. Such feelings bring mental disorders and pouring chemicals into our blood, that our physical ability to control the disease reduces. When we practice the forgiveness of that person, it is an exercise too much power on our side. It frees us tied to them, and they did us wrong. Forgiveness is not about them … about us a choice to live than those negative feelings. Because it's about us, we forgive the person who hasto apologize or even admit to having done something wrong. It's not for them!

Forgiveness is one condition: we often confuse forgiveness with confidence, thinking we can not forgive, because no one would put up hurt again. It is clear, particularly with regard to certain forms of abuse, a person who has harmed us the confidence to continue to reduce violence and even encourage the person to repeat and escalate the abuse. Forgiveness is not trust. Instead, forgiveness is more like wellness,peace and quiet … a state of being. In this condition, it really does not matter what is done for us in the past. We have let go! This does not mean we have forgotten that the old adage "forgive and forget" suggests. We can not learn from the past, so we keep forgetting the painful episodes. As can trust us to forget an offensive set for more of such offenses. Forgiveness is the emotional state created by releasing past hurts every time we remember that we, ourthoughts and feelings to more productive purposes.

Forgiveness is a gift: The word "give in the middle of the word 'forgiveness' and in the middle of the concept. The person who forgives not deserve to be, or even to ask … they do not know. It is a gift! If you have a debt forgiven, it means that you no longer have to pay. When we forgive someone, we are free to them to relieve the debt they owe us because of the harm they have caused. For this reason, forgivenessnot deny that they have caused us harm, but relieve us of the need to get them back in one way or another. This type of gift benefits entity much more than that.

Often the reason we find it hard to forgive others, our own need for forgiveness. Strange as it sounds, we all hurt and abused others. We could not have done on purpose, or in the same way as we have hurt, but we all have a villain to everyone. Sometimes the pain I am the most. I found that Ione that most anger is to me. Can you relate? So if we are not forgiven and has not forgiven us, how we get the opportunity to forgive others? Forgiveness is A Lot Like Love in this context … loving person will not reduce the total amount of love, it increases. Actually increases the love of someone else love we feel … hmmm. Whether we believe in God or not, many of us have heard about the prayer of the Lord. By asking, "Forgive us our trespasses as we forgivethose who trespass against us: "Jesus appears to his teaching that forgiveness for ourselves and our forgiveness of others are linked. We can not have one without the other. In this respect, forgiveness is definitely a two-way gift.

Forgiveness is a process: Just because it's a gift that does not forgive others, is simple. For me it is often the hardest to do. There are people who hurt me more than a decade ago, I'm still in the process of forgiveness. Oh, I decided long agoI forgive them, but even now sometimes anger wells up in me about what they did. Others who took some time for me to finish it now has no bitterness in their memoirs. In many cases, replaced with sympathy and compassion. We often think that forgiveness is impossible because it is not immediately. We try to forgive and then, with the following memory, we feel pain and anger all over again. Forgiveness is not a pill that temporarily masks the pain, buttime will remove the pain. The deeper the pain we experience, how difficult it is and the longer it takes for the pain and anger to take away. This does not mean we have not forgiven … not only that the process is completed. True forgiveness is not shown by lack of bitterness, but in the desire to stay in the process and see it completed.

Forgiveness is a way of life: Unfortunately, many of us seem never to the major release and joy that the process of forgivenessbrings. Ask them about their past, and it is a series of villains and crimes. It seems someone always block any attempt at their luck. That does not mean that those injuries were not real. There is no way any of us to get out of life without pain, deep. It rains on us all! That we hurt, is not the real tragedy … it is when we let that pain and swelling until the celebrations our experience of life overwhelms. This is where the condition of forgiveness as a lifestyle that mostpowerful.

When we forgive a lifestyle that one can not make us live in powerlessness, nursing emotional wounds until they are in the center of our lives. We have a renewed power over our lives, choices made by those who shape our victims. The negative emotions are replaced by productivity and confidence to build our immune system and isolate us from stress, anxiety and depression. Nobody is promising a life of forgiveness is easy … Just easier than the alternative … andmuch healthier.